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Same Sex Marriage Is Causing Christian Persecution In America

chirstian_symbol_remixI’ve stayed quiet on this subject as long as I can. I keep seeing where people and businesses are getting into trouble for refusing to take part in any way in gay marriages because of their religious beliefs. I’ve also seen people such as the great George Takei say that people are allowed to hold their religious beliefs but not to impose those beliefs onto others.

My question for them is what if the Supreme Court passed a law that said that same-sex couples couldn’t be seen dancing in public? What if you had to go out with a couple of your lesbian or other female friends so that you could enjoy a few drinks and some dancing? What if you were not allowed to dance with your partner, but were forced to dance eith your female friend just to be able to get out on the dance floor? I’m pretty sure the LGBT community would be up in arms screaming that they were being discriminated against.

Now imagine people started telling you that you have a right to be LGBT, but you have to hold those beliefs to yourself and shut up and just do what the court has told you to do. Would you like that? Would you like being pushed back into the closet and having the door locked on you to keep you there for good this time? No, you say? Then why are you asking Christians to do the same thing?

Yes, accepting Jesus as our Lord and Savior is a choice, but once the choice is made, Jesus leads all parts of our lives. We follow Him as closely as we can in an effort to be more like Him, although we’ll never make it. And part of that belief for many Christians is that Adam was made for Eve and not Steve. I’m sorry if this hurts feelings and costs me Facebook friends or Twitter followers or whatever.

I am a freelance book editor and proofreader, and I don’t have a problem with editing the types of books that a lot of other Christian editors do because I pray daily that God will send me the manuscripts He wants me to work on. I feel every story needs to be told. If I feel like God puts it on my heart not to take one, I don’t. I only ever returned one manuscript that I refused to work on and that was because of my religious beliefs, but not for the ones you’re probably thinking of.

My point is that I feel like Christians are being persecuted in the country that was founded in large part so that all people could enjoy the right to worship in the way they choose to do so. If someone says they can’t take on whatever project you may have, no matter what it is, because they feel like it goes against their religious beliefs for any reason, not just because it involves a same-sex couple, please find someone else to do the job for you. Everything doesn’t have to turn into a crusade, people. Just move on to the next guy who will be more than proud to take your money.

There are very few things in this world that only one person can do. There’s always someone else waiting in the wings to do the job for you. How about just telling other folks what happened and letting them go to someone else from the start . Let the business owner wonder what happened to all their business and why it seems to have inexplicably dried up. If it’s a person in a government office, just get someone else in the office to issue the license or do whatever. If everyone in the office feels it goes against their religious beliefs, go to another courthouse or municipality. This isn’t as complicated as people are making it.

Christians, hit your knees and pray and open your hearts and let God speak to you and tell you what He wants you to do. Everyone just take a deep breath and stop blowing your stack if you can’t get what you want when you want it. That’s what’s wrong with the world today. Everyone wants instant gratification, but isn’t the thing you want just a little more worthwhile if you have to work for it a little bit? I believe so. God bless and thank you for reading my rant.

Have something to add to this post? Join the conversation in the comments.

Is Lent “Biblical”? | Linda Bonney Olin ~ Faith Songs

I found Is Lent “Biblical”? by Linda Bonney Olin on her Faith Songs blog to be very interesting indeed. I come from a mixed family. My father is Catholic and my mother is Baptist. My brother chose to become Catholic and I’m a Baptist.

The situation has made for some great discussions about religion throughout my lifetime and even left me with enough questions at one point that I considered myself to be Agnostic.

I was going to observe Lent this year with my dad and brother right up until my brother told me on more than one occasion that “you people”(meaning me and other Baptists I guess) “don’t observe Lent. It’s a Catholic thing.” So when I found this post discussing this very thing I decided to share it with all of you.

Please take a moment to read the post and let Linda know what you think, but don’t be rude. Friends of Fatopia are never rude to our neighbors 🙂

Is Lent “Biblical”? | Linda Bonney Olin ~ Faith Songs.

Did You E-File Your 2014 Taxes? Find Out When Your Refund Will Be In The Bank

I don’t know how you do it, but I’m just not up for paying an arm and a leg to have someone else file my yearly income taxes for me. I buy a program each year (I prefer Tax Act) that helps me by asking a bunch of dummy questions that even I can’t mess up. I answer them, fill in the blanks it tells me to, click where it tells me to, and in the blink of an eye, I’m ready to e-file my income taxes.

So, my 2014 US federal and state income taxes are filed (YAY, ME!!!). Now, where’s my refund? How does an average, everyday FatChick411 like me go about finding out when my return will be ready to be released to my bank account?

Well, Uncle Sam his this nifty little tool right on the IRS website called Where’s My Refund? You can use this tool once a day to check on your income tax refund. Well, you can actually use it more than once a day, but it won’t do you much good as it’s only updated once every 24 hours, usually overnight while we sleep.

There’s also an app available through the Google Play Store called IRS 2 Go that allows you to check the same information. Just search for it in the Play Store. If you can’t find it the way it’s written, leave out the spaces. You know how this works; this ain’t your first rodeo.

Where's My 2014 US Federal Income Tax Refund? Click here to find out!

Click on the big piggy bank to find out when your US income tax refund will be released if you’ve already e-filed your federal tax return.

Here’s what you’ll need to check your filing status with these tools:

  • Your Social Security number
  • Filing status (single, married – filing single, married – filing joint, Head of Household, Qualifying Widow(er))
  • Your refund amount in exact whole dollars

And that’s it. Just go to the website or the app, log in with your info, and you’re good to go. You’ll get an update on where your taxes are in the filing process and their release date if one is available. Share this info with your family and friends. No sense waiting on the phone all day if you don’t have to.



**UPDATE** 2:10 pm 2/21/2015

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I’ll Drive, Paw Paw, You Need A Break – Wordless Wednesday

So what if it’s a day late and a dollar short? Shelby’s still a cutie pie, and all is forgiven, right? Yeah, I thought so, LOL.

I'll drive, Paw Paw, you take a break. I got this!

I’l drive, Paw Paw, you take a break. I got this!


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The Original Fat Chick Is Sick

I would like to apologize to all of you for not keeping up with this blog, especially for the last week or so. I know I haven’t been the best at keeping it up from the beginning, but I’ve really been trying hard to post something every day for the last couple of months. Well, it looks like my posting will be hit and miss at best, or I may have to take a break for an unknown amount of time.




You see, the original fat chick is sick. I didn’t have medical insurance for about 2.5 years until Obamacare went through. Then Mr. Fat Chick and I could finally afford insurance again.


During the time I had no insurance, I started having stomach problems that I just had to ignore. There was a lot of pain and swelling on the right side of my stomach under and below my right ribs and my right side. I figured it was just my gallbladder and let it go. Mr. Fat. Chick had to have his removed several years ago, and although it was a simple procedure to pop that puppy out, it wasn’t so simple for him to get over it. And even though I was scared after watching him go through what he did, I manned up and went to the doctor like a big girl when I got insurance again.

Last Tuesday I saw a stomach doctor. He took my family medical history (which reads like a horror story) and examined me. I’m 42 and had never had any of the usual tests these kinds of doctors order. I went in knowing I’d probably have to have some of them. So, after talking to me and checking out my guy, he tells me I have to have an ultrasound of my adomen, an endocsopy, and a colonoscopy. He then asked me when I wanted to get started, to which I answered, “When d…” He turned to his nurse and says, “Schedule her for in the morning.”

I’m thinking, Okay, this guy likes to get things done quickly. I like that. What I didn’t know until I had the orders to take to the hospital with me the next morning was that he had ordered all three tests to be done in the same day! Now I don’t know how things are done where you’re from, but down here in Fatopia, doctors aren’t too keen on the idea of going down someone’s throat with a Polaroid camera duct taped to the end of a hose pipe on the same day they send the same contraption up the other end. This kind of set some warning bells off inside the fat chick’s head to say the least.

Anyway, they found some things going on with me. Since I don’t have gallstones, I have to go back to the hospital today and drink some stuff and let them see how my gallbladder likes it and what it does with it. That will tell them if it needs to come out or not. With the doctor I have, he might just kick me on upstairs and pop that puppy out today. I hope I’ll get a little more time to prepare for it than that, but I also want him to do what’s best for me, and I know he will, so I’m letting him run the show. After all, he’s the guy that went to school to learn all about this stuff, not me, so he should know what he’s doing.

The abdominal ultrasound showed some other things as well that my internist (or my regular doc as I call him) picked up on. I have a fatty liver, which you kind of have to expect when you’re dealing with someone who is as big as I am (I’m at least 550 pounds.), and my liver is also enlarged. Apparently, my spleen got jealous and decided not to miss out on the fun and grew more than a little bit to match it.

I have more tests in a few hours that will hopefully answer some of the questions we have about what’s going on and how it all started. See, I’m not a drinker. I had my bouts of heavy drinking in the past, but they didn’t last long enough to do any lasting damage like this. Hopefully, once I have some answers and have had time to wrap my head around them, I’ll get back to blogging as I should. Till then, I’ll do the best I can. I hope you check back from time to time to see how things are going around Fatopia.

My Favorite Christmas Present This Year

I’ve started receiving early Christmas presents. I love all of the presents I’ve gotten, but the one I love the most is the one my 17-year-old son made me with his own two hands. The present: a bracelet made from rubber bands.

Now this bracelet is special to me for several reasons. First, he made it all by himself. DS is one of God’s special little people. He has a lot of issues, one of which is multiple developmental delays. His aunt sat with him this afternoon and used the rubber bands on his fingers to teach him how to make the bracelets by himself because that’s what he decided he wanted to do for everyone for Christmas this year (the woman is a saint I tell you). It took a little while, but he got the hang of it and ran with it.

Secondly, the colors he chose are close to my heart. My mother has myeolofibrosis. The way it was explained to me is that her bone marrow is slowly turning into fibrous tissue like scar tissue (find out more about myeolofibrosis here). All I know for sure is her best shot at a cure would be a bone marrow transplant that Medicare has refused to pay for because she’s 64 years old, so she has to go for blood transfusions at least once a month. She usually has to take at least two units at a time, and this takes the better part of six hours to run into her arm, so that’s a whole day out of her life by the time she signs in and everything else. But that’s a whole different blog post to come later.

A few months back my parents got some myeolofibrosis awareness bracelets and passed them out. One of the bad things about being a fat chick is that things like that don’t usually fit me, and true to form thos bracelets didn’t either. I was heartbroken because I couldn’t wear a bracelet like the rest of the family to show my support for my mom. I cried when nobody was looking, but I put a good face on it in front of everyone, telling them that it was okay and I didn’t really mind.

Well, DS remembered those bracelets were purple and green, and he made me a half purple, half green bracelet for Christmas. He went ahead and gave it to me today. It means a lot that he remembered my feelings were hurt and fixed the situation in true DS style. Yes, he gets style points for this one!

Thrid, DS didn’t even have to measure my wrist to get the size right. He said he just thought about how big my arm is and made the bracelet. And it fit on the first try. Oh yes, more style points!

And now I proudly unveil DS’s creation. Here is the second bracelet he ever made. I couldn’t be prouder of him, and it’s my favorite Christmas present this year.

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Isn’t it beautiful? I’d rather have this bracelet than any made of gold or silver. It’s priceless because I may wear it on my wrist, but it lives in my heart.

Have you received any Christmas presents yet this year? Would you like to share any memories of presents past? I’d love to hear them in the comments!

Making Christmas Cookies with Recipe

I remember making sugar cookies when I was a kid around Christmas. We used to give them out as presents to people that we cared about but couldn’t afford to buy gifts for. I had a great uncle who said our Christmas cookies reminded him of the tea cakes his mother made when he was a boy, and he looked forward to us making and gifting them every year.

To be honest, I’d love to give everyone I know a little something for Christmas, but the old wallet just won’t let me do it. So this year I decided to bring back the old tradition of giving Christmas cookies with intentions of giving them to all the adults on my Christmas list. I didn’t realize just how many adults there are on my Christmas list. There was a little more heart than time involved with that one. I had to drop my ambitions a bit. And then as luck would have it, Mother Nature stepped in kicking a lot of my medical problems into overdrive and made it even harder to try to get them done.

Over the weekend my mother, sister-in-law, and youngest son had the kitchen in Fatopia smelling so good I was about ready to gnaw my arm off. Oh my goodness, if only we had smell-o-vision so I could share what it was like in here on Saturday, you’d be ready to gnaw yours off too. I didn’t get to help at all this year, but instead of feeling bad about it, I’ve decided to look on the bright side. I have my health, family that cares enough to make my Christmas wishes come true, and Christmas cookies to munch on when I feel like it (because there still aren’t enough to give away), so I’m very blessed. See what I mean?


And here’s the recipe so you can make your very own. Feel free to use any kind of sprinkles, colored sugars, icings, or anything else that tickles your fancy to decorate them, or just leave them plain. The great uncle I mentioned above liked them plain because that’s how his mother made them for him when he was a boy. Make up a batch and enjoy! And Merry Christmas!

Sugar Cookies

1-1/4 cups granulated pure cane sugar

1 cup butter flavored shortening (we used regular shortening and it turned out fine)

1 large egg

1 tsp vanilla

2-1/2 cups self-rising flour*

Preheat over to 350 degrees F. In a large mixing bowl, beat shortening and granulated sugar on medium speed until creamy. Add egg; beat until combined. Add flour**; mix on low speed until combined. Immediately roll dough into a log shape and slice into 1/4-inch slices. (For cutout cookies, foll out cough to 1/4-inch thickness and using cookie cutters cut into desired shapes). Sprinkle with additional granulated sugar if desired. Place cookies on ungreased baking sheets. Bake cookies 11-12 minutes or until edges are lightly browned. Be careful not to over bake. Cool on wire rack. Decorate with frosting or icing as desired. Makes about 36 cookies. Cook’s Tip: For firmer dough wrap tightly in plastic wrap and refrigerate for 30 minutes.

*Original recipe called for 2-1/2 cups all purpose flour

1/2 tsp salt

1/2 tsp baking powder

1 tsp cream of tartar

We never have any of this stuff readily available at home, so we just go with self-rising flour and it works out just fine. We’ve always made them with it.

**This is where you would add in all of the dry ingredients if you were using the all purpose flour, salt, baking powder, and cream or tartar.

NaNa FatChick tip: If you cook them too long and they get a little hard, put a slice of apple on a paper towel in the container with the cookies, and it will soften them right up given a little time. Putting the apple slice on a paper towel is very important because if you don’t, the moisture will melt the sugar on top of the cookies.


Houston, We Have A Tree!

IMG_20141212_092443Now it is officially Christmas on the homefront here in Fatopia. We have our Christmas tree up! It has lights! Still needs some more decorations, but we have some reinforcements coming in to help with that later today, hopefully. And the best part is that I get to sit here in the living room in front of it and look at it all the time because the living room is my bedroom for right now. Christmas cool 🙂

Here’s what the tree looks like so far. I’ll update the pics as it gets decorated more and more and when it’s a finished product.


Fake It Till You Make It


I have bipolar disorder. That means I have some wild mood swings. I can be high as a kite feeling 10 feet tall and bullet proof with enough energy to clean a whole house in a couple of hours, and the next thing I know I can find myself in a pit of depressive despair so low that I don’t even want to get out of bed and don’t have the energy to change out of my night clothes.

The worst part is that I never know which way I’ll wake up or when the mood swing will hit. They can be gradual, taking place over days, weeks, or even months, or they can be super fast and happen in the blink of an eye. I can be laughing one minute and crying like a baby the next. Sometimes my mood can swing more than once a day. Gotta love that rapid cycling, yeah! Not!

I take medications for bipolar disorder, and they do help stabilize me to an extent. I lived my life for over two years without any psych meds at all, and life is much more fun and bearable with them than without them, believe me. I take something for the depression, and something to stabilize my mood, and something to help with the mania, and something to keep me in the groove. It took several years and a lot of trial and error to finally find a medication cocktail that even remotely works for me. Most drugs seem to peter out over time as I take them for some odd reason. Hopefully, these won’t do the same.

Yes, even with medication I still struggle to keep it all straight. It’s hard to make it in a world where everyone expects everyone else to be “normal.” What does “normal” even mean? No one fits the dictionary definition of the word. Finding someone who is truly “normal” would be like finding someone who was “perfect.” It’s impossible to do because they don’t exist. But that doesn’t stop people from expecting it, from looking for it in their fellow man, in every man, woman, and child they meet on the street.

That’s where my personal mantra comes in, “Fake it till you make it.” All you have to do is to build yourself a mask that looks like what you think a “normal” person looks like and put it on every day until you have the energy, the strength, and the other resources to be that “normal” person. You can hide behind the mask when it all gets to be too much for you and no one will be the wiser. You can don the mask when you would much rather just stay in bed and be left alone, turn yourself on autopilot, leave your brain in bed where the rest of you wants to be, and walk around with a smile on your face like everything is perfectly okay.

Wearing the mask really does work wonders. You should try it sometime. Or have you been wearing the mask so long that you’ve forgotten what the real you looks like?

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My First Thankful Thursday

I try my best to be thankful every day, but today will be my first Thankful Thursday post. I want to shine a light on five things in my life that I’m thankful for this week. It may be the same five things as last week. It may be the same five things next week. But for right now, this is what I’m thankful for this week.

johnny_automatic_Praying_handsI am thankful for that God has brought our family through another week together, that He has kept us safe, that He makes sure we have a roof over our heads and food in our bellies, and that He blesses us and watches over us in too many ways to mention. The best thing I ever did was to ask God to take charge of my life and open my heart and invite Jesus in. The world has been a whole new place, my family life has improved by leaps and bounds, my life in general has gotten nothing but better. The best part is knowing He’s got this no matter what this happens to be, that He can handle all things and does on my behalf every day. Oh yes, my God is mighty and He is good!

cyberscooty-cartoon-carI’m thankful for a son who is willing to let us borrow his vehicle when we need it. Our car has been down and out in Fatopia for months and months. Any time we need anything from the store, need to go to town, or have to go to the doctor it’s either bum a ride or beg a vehicle. We are blessed that our oldest son will let us borrow his vehicle to go to and from the doctor when we need to. If it wasn’t for that, I’m not sure Mr. FatChick and I would be able to make the trips we do to and from all the doctors we have to see.

xunoe_cartomix_2I am thankful for the ability to witness the circle of life happening around me. In the last year our family has been bless with our first granddaughter and grandson, a new calf, and seven puppies. We’ve had our share of loss along the way, which I’d prefer not to remember right now for personal reasons, but who doesn’t suffer losses in this life? But I see every birth as a miracle and I’m thankful for every one that we have and that I hear about others having as well.


I’m thankful for credit, for without it no one on my Christmas list would be getting a present this year. Yes, money’s tight and times are hard for everyone, especially us since Mr. FatChick had to come off work with a bad thumping gizzard a few years ago. Fortunately, there’s this amazing thing called credit that allows you to make purchases, get your stuff, and stretch the payments out over time. Yes, I’m thankful for credit right now, but let’s wait till after the first bills get there next year and see what I have to say then, lol. Oh yeah, and I’m also thankful for deferred billing 🙂

Blob_sleepingAnd last but certainly not least, I’m thankful for family and friends (and hopefully readers) that understand what life can be like with narcolepsy. A prime example of what my life is like dealing with it is this post. I started working on it well over twelve hours ago and have been on it looking for graphics or writing or whatever since I started, and sleeping. Oh yes, we can’t forget the sleeping. I do a lot of that at times, and today has been one of those time. On the flip side, there are times I don’t sleep at all for long periods of time. Not sure if that’s the bipolar disorder beating out the narcolepsy or if it’s how narcolepsy works (I’m a whole bag of tricks.), but it’s how I live. So I ask for you to be as understanding as my family is as they watch me drooling into my own lap on the chaise lounge in the den on any given afternoon.

What are you thankful for in your life? Use the comments and tell me. I’d really like to hear about it


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